Settle it Now - in Southern California.  A good overview of what mediation can do.

Civil Harassment Court Mediation, Oakland & Hayward

Southern California Mediation Association

Can anyone tell the editor why San Bernardino does not have mediation service in the courts?

Bench Guide for Judges recommends each judge suggest mediation to the parties.

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